I just feel gross All the time. Hence you need to make your lifestyle pretty clear from the beginning then there shouldnt be any problems after. It was insane. Then my partner came into my life. EVER in my life. Its just crazy! People who defend the animal to the bitter end kill me. After I had my baby he prefers to stay by the dog and not usthe dogs doesnt sleep in the bed anymore but she sleeps in our room. ie, Sorry, I cant go out, I have to let my dog out. My bf hasnt traveled in 5 yrs, and barely leaves the house all due to his dog. I would have put up with the other two cats. Its very difficult for me to separate my heart from my brain. My partner says she understands but she really doesnt. Hire a trainer: If your husband/boyfriend firmly states get rid of the dog due to this peeing or pooping issue, I highly recommend you invest some money in a dog trainer and perform the training. Which is why it is so incredibly important that you treat your partner with the love and respect that they deserve. I was fooled into thinking that my boyfriend could have become more into pets in the aftermath of something he deems traumatic to himself. He is sweet and sheds much less and does not stink!!! His parents are just as bad, they call the dog their grandkid and call several times a day to check on the dog. They arent really bad and we dont allow them in the bedroom at night when we sleep. Jake I am still going through this! I feel like thats sort of evil and that she lied about who she was. In my whole life I have met 2 or 3 people who are pet owners (very responsible ) but do not let the pets on furniture and can distinguish between a person and a pet. Therefore, you should go through its diet plan and create an appropriate diet plan with the assistance of a veterinarian. Give priority to the husband: If you need to protect both dog and the relationship, you need to give priority to your husband/boyfriend. Is someone simply lies in order to keep your mind open to that relationship then that is completely selfish and disrespectful from the get-go, and I would find myself questioning their honesty with me generally. I really need my husband to get on board with the dog. Her big thing is getting in the trash which I think every dog will do. I now have one foot out the door unless he is willing to accept my compromise or come up with some equally durable plan. She has a female dog and I have a male dog. His comment killed me, i can love his dog instead . I tell him I cant train her, how I dont have the patience to do it, or the tolerance. I also have the same issue with my cat! The day I received an ultimatum about my dogs is the day my SO would be hitting the road. I keep joking saying I want to get rid of her and he hows back hell get rid of me but Im partially not joking. I have always generally preferred animals to people, and I made all of this clear to my husband before we got married. this dog just stares at me to say you wont do shit when shes saying yes. Anyway, as I was feeding the baby I hear my dog whining which I know means he needs to go out. The problem is that my boyfriend for the most part responds with yelling horribly at him. people need to act like people. More was yet to come that day. Especially when they keep it up because they arent satisfied! HOWEVER..my partner has suffered a brain injury and cant help but whine about and insult my dog. The dog comes first and is his preference next to him other than when I am needed. He goes back to the other house he would love them. Now he reacts this way mainly because he has a bad ear and the barking is like a knife inside his head. God made man and woman to live together, what God has joined together, nobody can not separate, much less a useless dog. I love my doggy so much i treat him like a baby and my husband now is giving me an ultimatum between him n my doggy.its been 1 year since we r married. If all responsibilities about the dog are assigned to him, like giving exercises morning and afternoon, taking the dog for grooming, veterinary checkups, and other duties, his concern is fair. If I had it my way I would have my dog in the bed every night. for instance a rat terrier I knew would boss her human around by not obeying or listening to her humans half hearted commands. Then she lays with him in the bed and he cuddles With her and not me. I have always been much more of a cat person though and have only ever lived with small dogs until now. I really felt the love from them there. I know hes young and probably hasnt thought about it but I hope he sees it when the time comes. I have pretty much put my foot down and the dog has to stay in her bed all the time. Or who knows, you may both find the break refreshing and a great opportunity to experience a human love relationship more fully, even to the point of extending the dogs vacation. Its really causing a strain on my pregnancy and my marriage. Id give him away in a sec, but come on, its harder when you look at his face and he looks at you with puupy eyes. You should come up with a new idea every day because this learning process never ends, and you will see great success as time goes. Rebel I really feel for you. Its akin to watching out of control kids with their parents oblivious to their behavior but very transparent to an observer. I felt exactly the same way, and loved my boyfriends dog before we actually moved in together. My pup does chew but not on her things like she use to do. If anything dog people are the controlling ones. So I feel trapped in a way as I do not wish to have a broken family nor do I want to continue living in my current situation. Hes totallly talking me for granted since I stay home. Monitor the relationship without being openly antagonistic to her boyfriend, who may try to control and ultimately eliminate your daughter's access to you: smh! Let me remind you, he does not pee in the house and he does not go out any more than normal. My wife blames my 13 month pitt for everything that is chewed up regardless of where its laying at. When my ex was abusing me hed try all sorts of tactics to get in my head and even attempted to kidnap my Siberian wolf. Surely there are healthy ways to develop tolerance of some kind. uh yeah right. What makes it all worse is that our dogs can sense my stress and displeasure in them and eventually develop submissive behaviors. On top of the shedding is the incessant dog smell. You are most likely just wasting your time in that relationship (or should I say what relationship?). Im very attached to him. I dont think a dog should snarl or growl at anyone, much less one of his masters. The more I read about this in other blogs the more I realize its not even the dogs fault its his! This is what is promoted through the media and this is what many people buy into. After a huge fight among many, I laid awake all night thinking I cant do this anymore. My husband and I have always had dogs, three of them due to the three children, you know how that goes. i said uhmmmnooo.extreme much? To a hotel by myself? I love him and we have been together for almost three years and counting. Im still trying to get him to potty train.. Seems like not! It does not mean your partner has to help to, itd your pet so dont give them that responsibility because its not theirs. We had to move away and the dogs stayed behind we cant have them right now (thankfully), what I relieve to finally had the bed together as a newly married couple and have quality time together without 2 needy dogs around. Because he does put the family and its safety first. When we were trying to watch a movie on the couch, they keep trying to climb over us and these giant 70lb things dont need to be up there either. She allows no kissing during this time. If you are bothered by his soiling and smell be sure to let your partner know. I have a labra-doodle and have always had an inside dog. Anyhow, we moved to a house where I agreed to keep my dog in his own section of the house in the kitchen/laundry room so if he were to have an accident, which infuriates my husband, then it wouldnt be hard to clean up. Gross I know. lol. Fortunately he does and so the worst thing that happens is a few flecks of grey showing up on black clothes! Or when your dog is allowed to claw people, hump, jump on, bark at, ect ect what looks cool about this? Its called proper training and reminding the dog that they are a dog and not a human. I had fell in love with this man, not being made aware of his relationship with his dog. Pets do not belong on the furniture. In the beginning, she said she will choose her dog over any SO or family member in a heartbeat. i have three chihuahuas who i had long before me and him met and the first thing i asked was if he liked dogs. He will be terrible un-happy if he gets rid of them but as I said Im totally unhappy with them being at home. My boyfriend does not like it and Ive compromised with him and Ive quit allowing my dog on the furniture. I put him a doggie bed beside of ours and he slept there. Shed sit on the far left of the sofa. I am so happy I left. also to those who hate pets what not. My question to you is: Your pet surely is not a happy animal in his given situation. A partner does not need or rely upon you with its life. But f***, cant you show him discipline?? I have loved growing up with dogs, and I hope to someday have my own hypoallergenic one. I didnt go back & re-read for spelling, etc so please forgive any grammatical mistakes. We are so different, but we mesh so well at the same time. And now I have no idea what happened. Our relationship is wonderful, all except for disagreements on things I love. See, I like that,my wife thinks that dog is a human child and thats one of our problems. I am so glad I stumbled across this forum because its the only place Ive found people whose experiences are most similar to mine. And I love animals!!! When the dog is not around, (because his dad will take the dog to camp with him) everything is great, but when the dog comes back its terrible. Or I cant give the dog a bath anrd other things my husbands gonna want me to do. But I will not have an animal in my bedroom. People so often posit their relationships with their pets on nothing beyond feel good feelings they get from the pet being fully dependent upon them, when they would never accept that type of arrangement with another human being. These poor butt-hurt people making butt-hurt comments, dont get it, but I do.. Im not a dog person, and I have to live with one now, and I totally get you. Animals get between human relationships. I take my dog for two walks a day, he lets his dog out into his backyard. I would never make her choose me or the dog, but this dog has started to irritate me every time i look at it. If it has gotten to that point, it really isnt about the dog, it is about the relationship. She is great with people, kids and other dogs never shows aggression or anything but only towards him in these situations. Ive had several vets tell me to not let a dog sleep on the bed. He compliments the dog and acts like its his actual girlfriend. I have plenty of friends who love their dogs and do not let them on their furniture. Its all good in theory and they always say Well take care of them Well pick up the poop ya right, been there done that not doing it anymore. That just sounds down right cold hearted. Hes a shnoodle. Once we moved her out of there, his dog began barking all night so we had to fix a pen in the garage for him (he still barks ALL night). Im starting to feel resentment and dont know how to deal with this as I love the dog and hes well trained etc. If he continues to be a rude about the fur, you are incompatible. How on earth was I supposed to know that someone was going to treat their dog like an infantile god-being? My boyfriend cant handle that this dog is bouncy, happy to see him and that he wants to cuddle with him. i wanted to embark on a new relationship, and instead of prevented from doing so, because of the current interference from the cat. My family and I just recently got a dog. My boyfriend stays the night with me sometimes and works overnight and sometimes when he comes home, my dog has jumped on the bed while Im passed out and he gets really annoyed. Even said we should sleep separate! he kept insisting that the dogs had to be on the bed, there was black dirty, a TON of hair and even drips of pee on the sheet! This dog has caused so many issues! We had discussed very thoroughly prior to living together that the house will need to be cleaned often and upkept to minimize as much as possible the hair. In your own situation, step back and ask yourself why you are still living with him? She told me how she had one of her drunken , lonely nights with her favorite bottle of wine after going through a break up and was browsing the web for dogs she could get from a shelter. If you attempt to put him another room, he will whine and cry until let out. Omg! I have to be at work by 8am, Steve only works at 10am. Its not a human being. She has never snapped at me or anyone again.She only barks when someone is outside she doesnt know, and all I have to do is tell her, thats enough. He had me promise that I would train a new one as well as I did my last. Yes I support your dream she says but down deep, I think not. She said hes not used to other people I broke up with her. Why on earth do people insist on doing this??? Good for you! Recently, she has taken up chewing on the coffee table. I have so was so hurt and mad at what she said to one of my friends. Then he told me that he didnt like my dog sleeping in the bed. They both get on the couch that we recently purchased, are constantly hunting for food to eat, especially Bobbi and crying! You can love them, take care of them, and be there for them. No. That told a lot. Which was going well until now he hurt himself awhile ago and was sleeping in our room to watch him but now hes better and he said he loves having him in our room sleeping beside us so hes going to keep it that way. All I know is that its really frustrating. I dont want to over think this again. She cuddles or snuggles or whatever you want to call it any chance she gets. Today had an argument with my husband about his dog. The dirty paw prints all over the home also add to my irritation. When I was pregnant he wouldnt take the dog off the bed even though I have asthma & I was pregnant at the time. I bought one of those First Alert Bark Genies (sits on a table) and it seems to be workingyou might try that to get some peace. Animals just dont cut it. I want to focus on our marriage and we want to travel together, I moved to the US for him, so we want to visit my home country regularly and also visit other places. They can easily be steped on. Me and my boyfriend have been living together for a year. I had an idea of how things would be in my first home and they arent. Whenevr I try to address the issue, she gets pissed off and doesnt want to talk about it. Shes also always hyper and jumps very high, the reason why this bothers me is because she jumps up to my daughters face and will scratch her by her eye or cheek not on purpose but because of her excitement . I felt I needed to make a home for this cat. My husband lets them sleep in the bed. My husband lost his job and soon after we moved next to his parents and his attitude towards the cat changed. Fast forward to the past 3 months. I have no advice for you and I have no idea how people have four dogs. If they refuse, should you break up with them? I think it is absolutely disgusting. The counselor told me I was jealous. Thank you Pip. I have tried to compromise with him. I can put myself in his shoes in many ways but not with that thing. This dog is seriously making my life hell. I wish you all the luck and hope your situation improves. I dont see the need but they will keep following me around & staring at me which drives me crazy. I dont want to have to take a back seat because of two needy dogs. They have control and anger issues. Suddenly he didnt want the dog sleeping with us. First thing we noticed was that the dog was super timid, but we figured it was just that the dog was in a new place, new owners, new environment, etc. I had always boarded my pets, knowing they didnt particularly like it, but they were safe and fed and were happy to see me when I returned. Then, to make matters worse, he got another goldendoodle puppy last year, so now we have TWO huge, unruly, hyper, untrained dogs in the house. Our brains are capable of complex thought and emotion! People reading this may think that is paranoia, but I assure them its not. if you ignore her she gives a bark for attention and climbs on. I have two dogs. Its absurd. If my husband would meet me halfway and at least hold the baby long enough for me to take the dog out then he wouldnt have the occasional accident now. There are no boundaries or discipline. To add insult to injury, my bf recently got ANOTHER goldendoodle to keep this one company. At once, while moving along, you see your puppy, Breeds Starting With A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z, Contact Me | About Me | Privacy Policy | Disclaimer | Site Map. We have not been together intimately in 3 mos. I know my boyfriend still has some growing up to do, but Im tired of being miserable in this situation. Anyway, I now smoke cigarettes because Im so stressed and didnt before. And youre out of here. Your fighting in front of dogs is not bad parenting because you are not parents to the dogs; you are owners of them. Demanded that I not allow him out of his room, said he was putting him outside to live, etc. He shed very little, was brushed and bathed often and did not stink. I need rest because I have to work a 12 hour shift the next day. I am at the stage now where I am sick of hearing that I am a slave to my dog that my dog runs my life and that he is sick of hair on his pants I have a non shedding breed. Theyre fed custom-cooked food using expensive whole meat. A dog lives 10 years tops, humans live avg 85 years.hmmm when dog dies, and it will, who will be there longer. I believe people who let their animals do these things are harbouring their own issues with people and secretly enjoying the pretend power their out of control mutts are giving them. I am going thru the same thing as many of you. Do you seriously believe its normal to have a dog sleep in your bed and expect your partner accept it? He was supportive of getting the dog although I knew he wasnt a massive animal person. Maybe hes just adjusting to the new place. Like children, her Facebook feed is full of dog posts and her friends include a long list of other dog fanatics, each egging one another on to largely imaginary dangers and an ever-expanding requirement of expensive things dogs need. Thats a normal reaction. Steadfast companions when asked, doing their own thing when we needed our space. It use to chew anything it could get its mouth on, pee/poop in anywhere except outside, sleep in her bed (it would also pee/poop there), etcpretty much anything that, I believe, any reasonable person would be infuriated by. She tried to intervene but it wouldnt stop, biting me a few times. And in the end he was the one that left me and I was finally free from that promise. Well I was floored when I heard this has she says one thing like how can you get rid of the puppies and then say something like above. My bofriend wanted me to move in. for 4 years. I grew up with working ranch dogs. 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